As I was frantically clicking away, shopping for those perfect gifts, hoping they would arrive in time for the holidays…an image of a woman popped-up in my email from Women for Women International. There I was, in my cozy pajamas, holding a coffee cup worried about finding the latest gadget, while she was in a scorching field with a plow in her hands and a baby in a sling around her back, learning a trade to feed her family. Oh…
I didn’t know this woman, but I knew her eyes. I knew her expression and what it meant. I’ve seen those eyes on my mother’s face, on my friends’ faces and in the mirror. Those eyes have seen things and survived. And just like many women I know, she chose not be weakened by her struggle…she chose to get empowered.
So then perspective… I had to remind myself to focus on what really matters, listen to the strongest yet quietest voice in my gut and create a new conversation. Let go of striving for perfection and release trivial worry. Look around and ask “is it worth getting all worked-up over this?” It’s OK if things don’t go as planned, make a new plan. If it feels right, then go for it; if not, drop it and move on. Better yet laugh it off. I don’t have to do everything, it doesn’t have to be perfect, and no one is judging me except me…so I can give myself permission to take it easy.
I had to remind myself to focus on what really matters, listen to the strongest yet quietest voice in my gut and create a new conversation.
We are all on the same court. It’s OK to mess-up, be unhappy and cry one day, then fix-up, rejoice and laugh the next. We all have the same ups and downs, and at some point in our lives we all have that look in our eyes that needs no explanation. And, that “look” is usually facing a loved one not a package.
It’s OK to mess-up, be unhappy and cry one day, then fix-up, rejoice and laugh the next.
Slow down, take a break…you’re here now but you could have been that woman across the globe in a field. So thank your lucky stars and breathe in and out until you’re totally relaxed and focused on what really matters… spending good quality time with family, friends & loved ones, giving with gentle kindness and listening to that strong, quiet voice.
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